Here's Why Everything You've Been Told About Femininity Isn't Feminine

A year ago I wrote a piece entitled "Real Tips On How to Be Traditionally Feminine" and it's worth revisiting as so many women are led to believe outright lies about femininity as its depicted in today's FEmME niche online forums.

If I could sum up "femininity" today in modern femininity circles it would be described as:

1) Turning the other cheek towards uncommitted men who cheat, lie and are abusive. Also, giving your body to men and being "okay" with sharing them with many other women.

2) Wearing a dress as a larping costume while upholding no feminine or traditional morals or values. Especially not old world traditional morals that I espouse that were instilled in me by the silent generation women in my family (see below).

3) Being promiscuous and being born again into purity and virginity (been seeing a lot of people waking up to this all over social media and it's no longer strictly confined to trad subcultures). Social mores are so lax now that many women can catch a golden parachute down the "redemption" pipeline of harlotry-to-holiness and still collect gaggles of thirsty men all over social media. The online harlotry never ends, it's just rebranding.

I invite you to read about old world traditional femininity below and see if it gels with what people deem to be contemporary femininity of today.

Hint: It doesn't gel at all. And if you're a woman, and you want to be truly feminine, where you aren't just wearing a dress, drinking raw milk and calling yourself the @cremedelafemme694u, you can learn all about traditional femininity below.

P.S. I had so many young women write in when I published this piece saying they wish they had this information 10 years ago as it would have saved them a whole lot of heartache....

"A few months ago, I sent the email below explaining to the women in my femininity group what old school traditional femininity was like for the women in my family and the women of my generation overall.

This information is very useful for women today who seek to be feminine but are being inundated with the wrong messaging from online trad larpers who believe femininity is larping for uncommitted men in order to win the role of being a wife.

It's no mystery I advocate for warning women who are in uncommitted relationships not to cook, clean, be devoted and give of themselves wholeheartedly as a "qualifying" technique to men.

Hint: Women in the days of yore didn't audition for the role of a wife. Men understood that in order to "get the goods" from a woman i.e. sex, domestic labor, unwavering support, nurturing and loyalty, they'd have to put a ring on it.

Nowadays, women lavish uncommitted men with all these sacred feminine gifts and they never get the ring.

Obviously this doesn't work otherwise these women would be married.

They wouldn't spend 10 years with a man waiting for a ring only to never receive one; only to wind up living in regret at 37 years old that they never got married.

I have zero problem being a domestic goddess for a man. I do it better than any woman on this planet. I've been cooking since I was a teen and I've been preparing home-cooked meals from scratch for my husband and family for the last 21 years.

I'm also ride or die. I show up every day in sickness and in health (my husband was very ill last year with a brain tumor and I remained by his side). Furthermore, I'm a great woman to him who doesn't nag, doesn't emasculate him and would never dream of doing either.

He's the only man I've ever cooked and cleaned for. Because I realized early on that these are sacred feminine acts. Sacred feminine acts that men rarely appreciate unless they love you and are fully committed to you.

That's right, you can cook, clean and have sex from here to Christmas with a man all you like. That doesn't mean he will love you or ever care about any of it. But some men will take full advantage of your feminine gifts without ever taking you seriously.

Happens all the time. Millions of younger women find themselves in this predicament year after year.

"I did everything right! I cooked and cleaned, I was there for him, I paid half the bills, I moved in. Why didn't he give me the ring I deserve?"

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"I wanted to send you some further information on what kind of favors you should do for men.

I know it's really confusing. Many women in the "femininity" sphere are essentially encouraging women to be war brides, to throw themselves at men's feet, enslave themselves to any man who shows up, and be overly sacrificial erring on martyrdom and be what I call a "dog" for a man.

Red pill men tell women to BEHAVE! And women in the femininity sphere parrot this distortion of femininity at every turn because they are just as lost, confused and disillusioned by modern culture as men in the red pill.

I was raised by the utmost in traditional women. Utmost traditional to the nth degree, to be exact. And they were NOT dogs for men.

So if they weren't dogs, what exactly were they?

• They had big, squishy, loving hearts of pure gold and wouldn't let anyone trample on them, especially not low life degenerate weirdos like red pill men.
• They had values and stood up for what was right, period, with all people, not just men. "I'm not going to tolerate that disrespectful bs from you, sonny. Who the hell do you think you are? ​***gets out rolling pin and chases sonny down the street***
• ​They were chaste, and sex, domestic duties and tending to a man's needs were sacred acts, not cutesy stuff they performed for men to try and sustain their attention and stand out like women do today. And they went on to work very, very hard on all this stuff dutifully in marriage and never outside of it.
• They were the sweetest women on earth. Feminine kindness in every way in how they nurtured the people around them and especially, in how they conducted themselves. But they were NOT weak. They would raise hell with anyone who mistook their kindness for weakness.

Tell me, does any of this seem masculine or feminist to you?

It doesn't.

I realize that some people might find my takes on, "I won't cook and clean for just any man who shows up," to lean towards being feminist.

It's not feminist whatsoever. I simply value all these things as being sacred and you have to value them as sacred too. Because they are sacred. That's what femininity is all about, isn't it?

And the women who do these things for men, who go overboard, who try harder and harder and harder to prove themselves to men, eventually wind up angry.

They wind up heartbroken. They wind up damaged.

You hear it all the time, "I gave and gave and gave to this man and he did NOTHING for me! I took great care of him for years (like a mommy), he never even proposed and he up and left me for another woman!"

BOOM, a man-hating feminist is born. The damage is done. Best years of her fertile young life are GONE. Down the drain.

We see this everywhere in modern culture. Everywhere. I can't go a single day without seeing several examples of this all too common and tragic tale posted up and down social media.

I digress.

Thus, what should you do instead? How can you convey to a man that you are more traditional without thinking you have to audition like a golden retriever to get commitment and a ring?

Simple.

Show up, smile, be feminine, sweet and inviting to him and see if there's a real connection first.

See how much time and sincere effort he is investing in you.

See if he's trying to push you for sex (this is always a very bad sign).

See if he's willing to show up and date you consistently long before you even put any bare bones, sacred traditionalism on the table.

You can tell him you love to cook. You can tell him you want marriage and children. You can tell him you keep your apartment spotless and you are meticulous about it. You can tell him you love the idea of being a housewife.

Then, you can see how he reacts to all of the above. If he's onboard with that, great. Continue dating him, letting him take you out, letting him pay and further investing in you.

Then you can introduce small traditional favors and again, gauge how much he appreciates them.

"I made a whole bunch of brownies and I saved you a couple." How does he react when he eats them? Is he over the moon in raving about them? Does he thank you for being so thoughtful in bringing him a couple of treats and he just can't stop talking about it? If so, that's a great sign. Men don't fake that kind of enthusiasm. They mean it. And it means he is CRAZY about you.

Get him a small gift, something more traditional. Like an old school shaving kit with the little soft brush, bowl and shaving soap.

How does he like it? Does he use it every day? Is he very pleased to receive such a gift and makes it a point to let you know he uses it often? Again, another great sign.

Slowly introduce these things to him while you are dating. And if he's serious about you, he will repay you tenfold.

He will be ecstatic in you doing these smaller more traditional things for him, if he's actually invested in you.

What these modern women are doing these days for uncommitted men who have no intention of committing to them is destroying their femininity. Irreparably.

You cannot afford to do that. You are a woman. These beautiful, traditional and feminine gifts you have to offer have to be preserved, safeguarded and treasured. By you and also, by any man you are with.

If you don't preserve them, let some jerk trash all over them, waste and degrade them and ruin your femininity, you won't have any of those gifts in you left to give to any other man. You will be become hardened, masculinized and hurt. Forever.

It's funny how the trad/red pill/femininity communities are always telling us that women have to "preserve their feminine value." They have to avoid becoming "damaged goods," they say.

While they turn around and insist that women have to give every bit of their femininity away to any bum on the street and BEHAVE with him otherwise they aren't feminine.

Makes sense doesn't it? NOPE.

The feminine gifts you have to give to a man are sacred. They are not little toys and trinkets to be passed around for "approval" that men don't even approve of if they don't love you and don't want to commit!

Your job as a woman is to simply show up and be good company to a man. Then you can drop hints on him that you are traditional by disclosing to him your interests and values in this area.

Then you can proceed to use this dialogue as a vetting tool to gauge whether he's onboard. And if he's not, dump him.

That's also what your grandmothers did. They would tell these bozos who are looking for a free lunch by way of uncommitted p*ssy to take a hike.

This is what it means to be traditionally feminine.

There you have it. Traditionally feminine in the old school, moral, old world, silent gen way that actually works when applied to heterosexual, fully committed relationships.

And any man who tries to bypass any of this, who treats you substandard and won't commit, who still expects you to cook, clean, pay half, have sex and BEHAVE isn't traditional (nor is he masculine). And he isn't worth a single second of your time. There is no committed relationship to be had with these men, and you need to be like your great grandmothers and tell them to go to hell asap.

Love and Many Blessings,

Jenny