How to Effectively Communicate With Men

You may have come to the conclusion that in a lot of my articles, I stress being passive over "openly communicating" with men particularly when it comes to newer connections when a relationship hasn't yet been established.

Sadly, this is the reality of not yet being in a relationship with a man that the connection is precarious and up in the air. There remains an uncertainty in this phase of you two getting to know each other and what makes you tick in gauging compatibility.

And the truth is, a brand new relationship relies mostly on unspoken communication than being upfront and honest e.g. how they begin to set patterns in showing up for you, how they treat you and vice versa, etc. This is unfortunate especially when we want a serious relationship; when we need to know where we stand and he's a man we can see ourselves being serious with.

Thus, I am a proponent of being honest from the get go that you are seeking a serious relationship and quickly dumping a man if he is looking for something casual (which makes up a fair number of men on dating apps). However, when you do become acquainted with a man who is open to pursuing something serious, there's still a period in the beginning of the relationship where nothing is certain or set in stone...

You could break up in 3 months in finding out the relationship isn't what you believed it to be.

The mask slips and you find out the person isn't who you thought they were.

You discover the guy/girl has a lot of heavy (and undisclosed) baggage they weren't upfront with you about and it's left a bad taste in your mouth and trusting them seems unlikely.

Thus, communication in these situations is KEY just as communication is key when you're in the thick of a loving and established, long-term relationship. And today we're going to discuss on how to effectively communicate with a man in the context of a more serious relationship.

Here are 3 different techniques in addressing and effectively communicating with men: