How to Stop Getting Sucked Into Situationships
"Once the overarching theme of disrespect has been established, there's no coming back from it. There are no do-overs. Once people decide they don't like you because they don't respect you, they will never truly like you or respect you."
The dreaded "situationship" is still alive and well on today's dating scene. It's almost ingrained in our culture that people think that having an undefined relationship that is hurtful and confusing, and that drags on indefinitely (especially a sexual one) is "normal."
It's "normal" that people don't really like you enough to want to commit.
It's "normal" for people to not prioritize you and insist you have to settle for being their backup plan or last resort (lol who tf are these people).
It's "normal" for people to not even ask for commitment because if they do, they are "weird" or they are "moving too fast" or they get ridiculed because it's not the 1950's anymore. People don't commit, they just hookup!
In the not so distant past, taking LSD was a "normal" part of the culture as well. Doesn't mean it was a wise thing to do.
And that saying is warranted, "Just because everyone is doing it, doesn't mean it's right. And just because no one is doing it, doesn't mean it's wrong."
I've always taken the above approach when it comes to men. I would readily do what my friends believed was "wrong" with men. And I always got the guy no problem. Often to the extent that I couldn't get rid of the guy either.
I knew without a doubt what worked with men since I was young. I haven't been dumped by any man since I was 20 years old. I got my act together after spotting patterns in male preferences and their behavior (that I was forced to reckon with and resolve within) and I haven't had a man leave me since.
And you too can avoid getting sucked into situationships using a similar approach. Here's how: