Should You Be "Mean" to Men? Absolutely, and Here's Why
"Being 'mean' to a man doesn't involve emasculating or controlling him. It has to do with controlling yourself, being composed and having real morals and values when it comes to dealing with men's more aggressive and unpleasant behavior."
I can see all the pearl-clutching and fainting from the "trad" crowd that might read the information below and declare me a feminist (lol).
I can hear the bemoaning that "I'm going to die alone with cats" even though I've been married for 21 years.
I can picture the incels slamming me with "she's married to a beta chump she emasculates" which is priceless considering these nudniks can't change a tire or swap out a water heater (while my man can do it ALL).
That's right, the first order of business for trads is to short-circuit at the idea a woman have any real morals and values that traditional women for the last 200+ years have been keen to uphold. Like:
- Ensuring there is commitment on the table from a man and not wasting a single second of her time and precious female resources if there isn't.
- Feeling insulted that any man would expect them to have sex, be a maid and cohabitate outside of marriage. For traditional women, that was unheard of. And it was ridiculous and shameful.
- Keeping their vaginas to themselves. Women used to take pride in their womanhood and reserved sex for marriage. And they used to rub it lowly men's faces that they would never get to bed them. "You wish, loser! Get a job!"
Nowadays, the trad crowd seems to think women are obligated to provide sex, cooking, half the rent and maid service to random men on the street who will use and abuse them. Especially men who are not willing to commit now or ever.
"Be feminine! Cook, wear dresses and submit to men!" Meanwhile the men are doing nil in return that would make a traditional woman's efforts worth her while (most notably in courtship with the promise of serious commitment leading towards marriage).
I had someone mention to me that it seems like being "trad" is a fetish and a kink. I'm inclined to agree. Many trads wear dresses and play war bride chattel to strange men because they get off on it and never because they are actually traditional (tragic to admit but it's the truth).
I've always been "mean" to men (in the right context which is the only time it works and actually matters which I'll explain in-depth below). And I've always had success with men. I learned quickly as a young woman that being "mean" to even the most desirable man was like catnip to them.
I know that seems painfully contradictory to you and this simp/pickme culture we live in but I'm going to explain to you exactly what I'm referring to and why you need to be "mean" to get any lasting results with men: