Social Media and Dating Apps Have Made Me Objectify Women - What Can I Do?

Dear Jenny,

Q:

I feel as though dating apps and social media have altered my brain into wanting a woman who will have sex with me right away.

Most men can agree they don't want an easy girl but I feel as though I'm torn between preferring easy women vs. seeking something more serious. I think I'd have more meaningful connections with women if I chose something more serious.

What can I do?

Signed,

Confused About Sex & Meaningful Connection

A:

Dear Confused,

The very nature of social media and dating apps is to deceive and ensnare you into wanting sex with women right away–along with demanding all else under the sun with expediency.

Food, sex, riches, fame, supercars, the latest gadget, you name it. It's all there for the "swift taking" and it's there for people to obsess over to the detriment of certain aspects of our humanness that matter–like meaningful connection.

Many years ago I read a book entitled "The McDonaldization of Society" by sociologist George Ritzer who prophesied the pitfalls of future mass consumption for which people would inevitably fall prey to as we adapt to a global society. Access to anything and everything at the click of button is now our reality.

Especially sex and "easy women."

"Easy women" that men can't easily access at the crux of it all.

Sex and its seemingly endless availability through social media, scant skin suits, skimpy lingerie, etc., coupled with porn at men's fingertips has created a chasm in which the male brain has been simultaneously overloaded to the point of being desensitized–all the neurons in the male brain are firing at once looking at a naked girl and desiring her, meanwhile, he has reduced her to body parts for which he isn't interested in beyond moments of fleeting pleasure.

Which is why I often emphasize women covering themselves when seeking a potential mate–men don't take naked women seriously because they can't.

The thought process behind men seeing skin before a connection can be made with a woman renders it dead in the water. Which is also why we are experiencing a glut of modernized simps–they can't take women seriously either. Naked women are mythical gods to these poor dupes who too can neither see them as human beings.

What can you do to stop "objectifying" women in an effort to begin taking them seriously?

I've had to make a conscious effort the past 10 years to painstakingly filter and avoid much of the inconceivable trash available on the web today and fill my free time with wholesome pursuits.

I listen to old music and watch old films (along with the fewer recent ones which offer some good old-fashioned goodness). I only read materials and watch media that I want to consume (mindful consumption being the key here) while willfully ignoring the rest of what's shoved in my face. I don't want my good-natured vibes and recaptured innocence to be tainted by foulness.

Perhaps you might try doing the same. Reintroduce humanity and goodness within yourself by not paying attention to what's abhorrently distracting and soul-sucking while being noticeably inefficient and unfulfilling.

It's a tough act to follow and it's easier than ever to be a mindless consumer. Skin for all its glorification leaves much to be desired. And people today are lonelier than ever in spite of anything and everything being available every hour on the hour to infinity.

If you want women you can connect with you have to connect the dots in terms of what you consume and what you're allowing to filter through to your consciousness of which makes you want to objectify women–and stop consuming it.

Unfollow the Instagram girl. Delete the dating app. Turn off the hub. Put away your phone and watch a YouTube video on how to build a cedar chest and gift it to your parents. Rise above it all and have control over your thought processes by not allowing yourself to be a mindless consumer of waste.

Because the only thing being consumed and wasted here is you–consumed by the idea that you can't take women seriously in a wasted effort to avoid finding a more promising and fulfilling relationship.

The more you allow yourself to unplug, the more opportunities there will be for you to find happiness with women.

Love and Many Blessings,

Jenny